Try to calm down. In the heat of the moment, you might feel like the nagging is impossible to deal with. And it certainly can be frustrating and hurtful. However, try not to let it upset you too much. Anger and hurt can have negative effects on your mental and physical health.
- You’re already dealing with a lot of stress because of the nagging. Try not to let it harm you further. Stress can cause headaches, increased heart rate, and hyperventilating.
- Take five deep breaths, slowly breathing in and out. This will help calm you.
- After you leave the situation, try listening to soothing music or taking a hot shower
Walk away. Nagging can sometimes feel unbearable. If your wife simply will not stop being negative towards you, you should feel free to walk away. No one has the right to try to make you feel bad about yourself.
- Make it clear that you are finished with this interaction. You can say, “I am going to take a walk to calm down. Your words are hurtful.”
Acknowledge your emotions. When you are dealing with constant nagging, it is important that you recognize how you are feeling. Repressing your emotions will likely only make you feel worse. Instead, work on being open about how you are feeling. Some common emotions are
Practice self-care. Working to protect your emotional health is important. When the nagging is causing you a lot of stress, remember to take some time for self-care. Self-care is the act of treating yourself kindly and allowing yourself to take a break.
- Spend some time outside. Take a hike or catch a baseball game.
- Treat yourself to your favorite food.
- Take time to go catch a movie you’ve been wanting to see.
Vent your frustrations. It’s not healthy to keep your emotions bottled up. That can lead to even more frustration and anger. Instead, give yourself permission to voice your feelings. This can help give you some relief.
- Get together with a trusted friend and tell them that you need to talk.
- Try writing in a journal. It can be cathartic to write down how you’re feeling.